Living between cultures has taught me that etiquette is not about memorizing rules—it’s about being aware, adapting, and making people feel seen. Each culture has its own rhythm, and the more I listen and learn, the more I understand that respect is a universal language spoken in many different dialects. Each culture expresses respect in its own way, and the more we notice these subtle differences, the more gracefully we can connect. From my own roots to different encounters, and the many traditions I’ve been lucky enough to experience, here are some cultural etiquette notes I hold close to my heart.
1. Greetings: Where Respect Begins
In Japan, bows convey layers of meaning—the depth and duration telling you how much respect is intended.In France a light kiss on both cheeks (sometimes more, depending on the region) is a warm welcome, though handshakes are common in business.
In the Netherlands, greetings are warm yet structured. A handshake is standard, but among friends or family, expect three kisses on alternating cheeks. It’s not just a habit—it’s an unspoken way of saying, I have time for you.
In the Philippines, a smile comes first—it’s a gesture that can warm even the most formal interaction. Among family, younger people often greet elders with —placing the elder’s hand to their forehead as a sign of honor.
No matter where you are, the first gesture you make says everything about how you value the other person.
2. Dining Etiquette: Respect at the Table
Meals are where culture’s heart beats loudest.
Italy – Never add cheese to seafood pasta—it’s about respecting culinary tradition as much as taste.
China – Leave a little food on your plate to show satisfaction; clearing everything may imply the host didn’t serve enough.
Middle East – Accept at least a small serving when offered food or coffee—it’s a sign of hospitality you’re expected to honor.
Greece – Sharing dishes and accepting second helpings shows you’re enjoying the meal; leaving without eating much can be seen as disinterest.
3. Gifts: The Language of Thoughtfulness
Gift-giving rituals reveal how deeply respect is embedded in tradition.
Japan – Always present and receive gifts with both hands; the wrapping is as important as the gift.
Russia – Offer flowers in odd numbers for celebrations—evens are for funerals.
India – Avoid white flowers (linked to mourning) and choose bright, vibrant colors instead; giving sweets is a joyful tradition.
South Korea – Present gifts with both hands, and often in pairs—single items can be seen as incomplete.
True savoir faire lies in listening, observing, and adapting. Cultural etiquette isn’t about perfection—it’s about connection. By learning and respecting traditions, we not only avoid faux pas, but also deepen the bonds that make our global interactions so enriching.